Lately I am intrigued by the idea of "emotional intelligence". He's starting to seem that emotional intelligence is up in ranking with the "social intelligence" to be successful in all aspects of life ... particularly in your quest to date a beautiful woman.
In this article I want to talk about some mistakes "emotional" common that men commit when trying to seduce a woman.
These are some of the most common mistakes. The first step is to recognize when you are making the mistake, and simply ask yourself "am I showing emotional intelligence?
1. Who likes a girl too soon
We've all done. We see a really cute girl at the bar, and based solely on their looks and gestures that we made the decision "is the one."
Without even saying a word, we have a certain emotional appreciation towards her. By this approach it becomes 100 times more difficult. Now we feel it is necessary to say the perfect phrase or have some incredibly smart to talk ...
This is a serious mistake. Never start "to like" a woman until you've had a conversation with her and feel some sort of connection. Falling in love with a woman based solely on their appearance is extremely "beta" and immediately puts you in the role of "chaser". She can smell it instantly ... and your chances of success from that point forward are almost nil.
2. Stagnate end with a phrase
I remember after watching the episode of Keys to the VIP with Cajun, I became obsessed with using the phrase that he repeated constantly cajun girls to know them ... The phrase was ... "Do I look like a drug dealer?"
The thing is ... I never had success with this phrase. Generally rarely failed and led to an interesting conversation. But still using it because I thought it sounded "cool."
When it comes to success, what you like personally is very rare that it works. Just because you think a phrase or a joke is extremely intelligent ... does not mean that women also appear. It is best to try different phrases, and keep that deliver best results.
3. Meeting with the feeling of despair
Everyone goes through a period of drought. Droughts are those seemingly endless periods where things just do not realize.
During these periods ... nothing seems to go right. And very often our "desperate" to get out of this run is usually the reason why we continue to fail.
The best thing to do during these cold spells just take one or two weeks without leaving. Probably seem somewhat counterproductive, but trust me, you will feel rejuvenated mentally and emotionally to get away from the "game" for a while.
Women can smell "desperation." And all except the most desperate, avoid a man who is greatly "hungry".
4. Getting addicted to approval
I see this happen all the time with men. They approach a group of women and instantly hit it off with the woman.
Generally speaking subjects "safe" and usually strike up a conversation "PG" that she sees as "harmless."A women seem to really like the company of men. Men become addicted to this approval and do not want to risk offending women sexually intensifying or introducing something to the conversation.
For some reason, as a man, we tend to think that women will be offended if we show our "true" intentions ... when in fact, they respect you more. Women know exactly what you want ... and you will not get anywhere if you talk about "puppies and ice cream" all night.
5. Move the conversation to your "comfort zone"
We all have our comfort zone in life. These are areas "emotionally safe" for us. But the problem with comfort zones is that you can not move forward if you're stuck in your comfort zone.
This tends to happen a lot to men when they try to pick up women. They can start the conversation with a good line, maybe throw some funny lines / bold ... but soon returned to his "interview mode."
They do this because the "interview mode" is convenient for them. It's like the food they like. It is safe and makes us feel good because we've been there before. The problem is ... as with the food they like, comfortable conversation topics generate very little spark.
6. Become "emotionally attached" to the result
I wrote a whole post titled "Let your winners send" that talks about how we tend to finish the good interactions too soon, and we were a long time dead interaction.
This is because we become emotionally attached to the outcome. When an interaction is going well, we begin to feel emotions "positive" and do not want to lose them. So often we get out before a good conversation just to retain that emotion "positive".
And often when something is going wrong begin to feel "negative" emotions. And make the mistake of wanting to get rid of negative emotions so hard that we were thinking we can turn the tide.
The trick is to get rid of all the emotions kick. Do not let feel not very good nor very bad based on how the interaction is going. Just interacts. If you're having fun, stay. If you're bored, go.
It's that simple.
7. To think that "this girl" is different
Here is one of the biggest mistakes that men make when they learn the "game". They learn all the right techniques, strategies, thoughts and behaviors ... but do not use.
The main reason we did not use in reality is because we start to think that "this girl is different." Our emotions convince us that "the game will not work with her." And we began to think "I just need to be myself."
The thing is this ... very few girls are different. 99% of women respond to the same patterns of attraction. No matter if you are white, black, Asian, Spanish, if you have 19 or 50 ... "Attraction is not a choice" and women will respond accordingly.
The next time you catch yourself thinking "I can not be fun / daring with her," just ask "Is it a woman?" If the answer is yes ... proceed as planned.